You do a kind of thing where you press it up against yourself and hide it behind your forearm. It’s not as hard as you might think - I mean, to hide your boner when you’re stark naked. Sign-up for The Bold Italic newsletter to get the best content about life in the Bay Area in your inbox every week.

We are all here together, working on ourselves, motivating one another - and wow, this is feeling really good. It’s like these showers are a site of fraternal bonding. I’m not just showing off I like the idea of sexuality at the gym. The couple of guys showering around me look as though they like seeing a show. I like putting on a show, and for the most part, the other people at my gym seem OK with it too. I’m making sure things are clean down there. I take a handful of the shower gel that the gym supplies in buckets and start lathering up. The endorphins, the steam - it’s relaxing. I walk into the locker room, throw my clothes off and head to the showers. I’m finishing my workout at my neighborhood gym.